Most people you meet on dating apps are exactly who they say they are. A few simple habits make it much easier to spot the ones who are not, and to enjoy a first date without worrying. Use this checklist from the first message to the walk home.
Before you match: set up your profile safely
- Use photos that are not on your other social accounts, so a reverse image search does not lead straight to your Instagram or LinkedIn.
- Leave out your surname, workplace, college and home area. "Works in tech in Bengaluru" is enough.
- Turn on the app's own safety features: photo verification, message filters and, where offered, video calls inside the app.
While chatting: check they are real
Keep the conversation inside the app for the first few days. Apps can see and act on reports; your personal WhatsApp or phone number cannot be taken back once shared.
- Ask for a short video call before meeting. Someone who always has a broken camera is a warning sign.
- Run a reverse image search on one or two of their photos. Stock photos or pictures of a model are a red flag.
- Notice if their story changes, or if they push to move quickly to another app.
- Never send money, gift cards, OTPs or crypto to someone you have not met, whatever the reason. See how to spot romance scams.
Planning the first date
- Meet in a busy public place, such as a cafe or a mall, at a time of day you are comfortable with.
- Arrange your own way there and back. Do not accept a pick-up from home.
- Tell a friend who you are meeting, where and when, and share your live location with them for the evening.
- Keep your phone charged. Our power bank guide helps if your battery rarely lasts the day.
On the date
- Keep an eye on your drink and do not leave it unattended.
- Pay for yourself if you prefer; it keeps things simple.
- Trust your instincts. You can leave at any time without explaining why.
Afterwards
If someone made you feel unsafe, report and block them in the app. If there was a threat, harassment or a crime, contact the police. In India you can also report cyber fraud on the national helpline 1930 or at cybercrime.gov.in; in the US, at reportfraud.ftc.gov; in the UK, to Action Fraud.
Quick checklist
- Profile without surname, workplace or linked photos.
- Chat stays in the app until you feel sure.
- Video call before meeting.
- Public place, own transport, a friend who knows the plan.
- Never send money to someone you have not met.
